What This Holiday Season Taught Me About Expectations

This year, I knew that the winter holidays would be different because of things I've learned about and practiced this year. These include things like mindfulness and hygge. Every year, I'm so ready for peppermint mocha drinks, candy canes and Christmas music by September or November, but then by mid-December, I'd ready for it all to go away. This year, I told myself that I would not even think about anything Christmas-related until December hit so that I can savor the enjoyment even more. 

Well, December got here and I wasn't in the holiday spirit still. I passed it off with, "Well there's no snow so Christmas music just isn't enjoyable without the snow." This wasn't the case. Of course, snow made Christmas music a little more enjoyable because the songs resonated more, but wanting hot cocoa, fuzzy socks and feeling very hyggelic was just not the case at all. 

What I presume happened was: since I forced myself to hold off on the holiday vibes, I literally forced it away for the rest of the holidays. I've heard about the act of mindfulness and how it's best to keep everything seasonal, so it's better enjoyed. For example, staying away from pumpkin pies until Autumn hits because let's be honest, pumpkin pie in the summer just isn't the same as it is in the Fall. For the sake of living mindfully and trying out the whole hygge thing, I kept away from everything Christmasy until December, just so that I could really keep things magical this year. But like I said, it never showed up once I was ready. 

What I really think is important is to let things flow in this case. Because I didn't let my natural enjoyment and desire to manifest when I was "ready" for it, the universe took that as a sign that I didn't want to be in the holiday spirit at all. Obviously, this wasn't the case...I was only trying out a trend. And that's okay. That's part of life and experimentation. However, when you have to force something out of the concern of a trend, or a lifestyle choice of others, it's not authentic, and it's not real for you. I was hoping that I would be prancing around, dancing to Christmas jams, making hot cocoa every day, and watching holiday films once a week. None of that happened. And I'm definitely not complaining. It was a fantastic Christmas, mood-wise. But it wasn't magical. There were no "cherished moments" that Christmas is associated with. 

What I've learned is that some things have their own time and place. But being in the Christmas mood before December does not hurt anything. I've had good Christmases before this one that where I was ready for Christmas music and snow to be gone before the holiday arrived. This year was an experiment, and I have to admit that I don't like it. I do like the act of mindfulness in everyday life, like questioning your buying choices, thinking properyl about the foods you eat, and so on. But holding off on foods and drinks, music, movies, and other things that are associated with a holiday is not always the best choice for everyone. It didn't ruin Christmas, but it forced the magic out of it.

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